|Posted by [email protected] on April 21, 2019 at 12:40 AM||comments (0)|
Helene Goldnadel broadly divides development into five categories; physical, intellectual, language, emotional and social.
Physical development can be further divided into two sub-categories; fine motor skills and gross motor skills. Fine motor skills are those that are small and conducted via the hands. As babies, the main fine motor skill that they need to learn is simply gripping an object with their whole hand, known as palmer grasp (referring to them grasping with the palm of the hand.) As the child gets older they should be practicing picking up small items with their thumb and forefinger, known as pincer grip; activities such as threading beads or buttons onto string and holding a crayon correctly to make marks on paper are good ways of developing this skill. Of course, always be aware of items that may cause choking and remember that supervision is always paramount.
Gross motor skills are those that require action of the major muscles of the body, for example sitting without assistance and crawling as a baby, learning to pull themselves to a standing position and walking as a toddler, and running, jumping and skipping as a pre-schooler. To help your baby to learn how to crawl it is important to wait until they are gaining control and strength in their bodies. If they are keen to learn how to crawl they will be pulling themselves forward from a sitting position onto their hands and knees. If not, and you are sure they are strong enough; you can gently help them into this position to help them get used to it and encourage them to make the next step of moving their knees. To help your toddler learn to walk you can help them onto their feet and simply hold them in this position. When they are comfortable doing this you can encourage the slight movement of each foot and soon you will find them wanting to do this on their own; soon your little one will be walking towards you and holding your hands! To teach older children how to do anything the most important element is being a good role-model; show them how to do what they are finding difficult, for example jumping with two feet together. Allow them to copy you and make a game of it, the more practice the better, after all practice makes perfect.
Intellectual development refers to any knowledge the baby or child acquires, making them understand the world around themselves more. For example, as a baby sits in their highchair the mummy walks out of the room so the baby starts crying, this is because they think that their world is only as big as how far they can see. As the baby grows intellectually they learn that mummy might only be in a different room so they are reassured because she isn't really gone. It is interesting to watch toddlers trying to navigate their way around a new toy because they are using everything they have previously learned in their lives, for example that smaller objects sometimes fit into large holes and that if you open the lid of a box you can put things inside it. When older, the child will want to understand why things do what they do and how they work, for example they may watch the front wheel of their tricycle spin round whenever they pedal and will recognize that they are having that effect on the wheel. This is the stage when 'why' is their new favorite word!
Language development is exactly what you think it is. As babies, the main language development taking place is them watching adults speak to them and learning when a reply is needed, for which they will babble. As toddlers, their first words will be the things they value the most, i.e. mama, dada, milk, ball, teddy. These will then be used to make very short, simple sentences, which they will frequently use in all different situations until they learn when they 'fit' into conversation; this is when they get a positive reply from an adult, rather than being corrected. As pre-schoolers, most of the mother language will have been learned to get them through day-to-day life. They will be able to ask for what they want or need and are able to understand a great deal more of what people say to them than what they are able to say back. They will be asking what objects are and using their new words in different situations, as the toddlers do, to find out where it fits. They will also be finding other versions of the object that they have just learned the name of, for example different triangles around the room or on road signs when out walking.
Emotional development refers to the developmental stages a child goes through when learning how to deal with their emotions. People assume that when a baby cries they must be unhappy, however this is them simply expressing that they have a need that needs to be met, i.e wet nappy needs changing. Toddlers will often copy their peers in play, so when a child becomes upset, the others are visually uncomfortable with this; I have even seen toddlers approaching the upset child and patting them on the back and cuddling and kissing them, showing just how much they take in when watching adults. When a child is excited, others will often copy them by following them around the room clapping or shouting, this is how they learn how to show their emotions. As pre-schoolers, the children will now be comfortable playing on their own as well as with other children, meaning they have learned how to do this. Some will enjoy playing on their own so much (maybe due to being an only child) that they find it difficult playing with others. This is when adult guidance is needed; they should be telling the child that they understand they are feeling worried about playing with others but that doing so is a good way to make friends and have fun. It always fascinates me when I see children, from toddlers and pre-schoolers, playing with their dolls and inflicting their emotions onto them, or when they re-enact a scenario that the child has been in, showing the doll how they felt.
Social development is based on how the child learns to conduct themselves with others and understands what is socially acceptable and unacceptable. Toddlers copying other toddlers is a way of them showing that they value that child enough to copy them. They are learning how to conduct themselves in public by following the other toddlers lead. When at a party, a toddler may spit out a food they dislike; of course others will copy. This can be dealt with by explaining how to deal with something that you do not like and that it is not acceptable to spit, these children have then learned that spitting is not allowed and is frowned upon as it is not a nice thing to do. When playing in the make-believe corner a child walks past the queue of waiting children up to the desk where the 'nurse' is sitting. The other children get upset because 'he pushed in'; in this example it should be explained what a queue is and how they work, this is again teaching the child how to conduct themselves with others and showing them what is acceptable. 'Please' and 'thank you' are also part of growing socially developed because the child needs to learn how and when to use them and that we use them to be polite.
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|Posted by [email protected] on April 16, 2019 at 1:30 AM||comments (0)|
As a parent, "Connecting" with your child may be the most important thing you do. When kids feel close to their parents, there is less conflict in the relationship, more trust and more caring. Also, when kids feel secure, they are more likely to share problems, listen to you and follow your advice.
So let's take a look at 3 of the biggest and deadliest mistakes according to Helene Goldnadel parents make that cause a break in their relationship with their children, and, then, what to do instead.
1) Ignoring attempts at connecting. When your children talk, ask a question, share good news, pout, get angry, or even tattle what do you do? How you respond can make or break your relationship. Do you ignore them, snap at them to be quiet, keep on with what you were doing and give a slight acknowledgment?
What to do instead. How you react to all the small interactions each day is the secret to creating a close, trusting, sharing relationship. When your child talks to you, stop what you are doing (as often as you can), listen and respond to what they are saying in a positive way. They will feel valued and important and be much more interested in talking with you.
2) Giving evaluative praise: When you tell your child they are awesome over the littlest thing, praise their work as "absolutely the best" or tell they they are so "smart" they might smile and like it at first. But pretty soon children can begin to distrust and blow off your compliments. Sometimes they develop a sense of entitlement, feeling like they shouldn't have to work for anything at all. They might even become praise junkies doing whatever they can just to get praise.
What to do instead: Specifically describe what your child said or did, and tell the impact, as you see it. This allows your kids to "paint a positive picture of themselves" which builds true self-esteem. It also lets them know what they need to do to be successful in the future. For example, "I enjoyed reading your book report. All your research helped me learn a lot of interesting facts about dinosaurs. I had no idea there were over 700 types of dinosaurs."
3) Criticizing: There is nothing that can put a wall between you and your child faster than feeling disapproved of by you. It's especially painful if you attack character like saying "You're lazy, or irresponsible."
What to do instead: Respectfully tell your child what they said or did that you found unacceptable, suggest an alternative behavior, explain the benefits of your suggestion, and, when appropriate, ask for action. For example, "You left your dishes on the table, they belong in the dishwasher so they can get clean, please put them there."
Also, did you know there is an amazing difference in the impact of how you praise your child? One type of praise can cause your child to give up in defeat when he runs into an obstacle. Another kind of praise can motivate your kids to positive action! Changing a few words can make a night and day difference in your child's life.
|Posted by [email protected] on April 13, 2019 at 3:20 AM||comments (0)|
Here are steps by Helene Goldnadel to help you bring the many benefits of game playing to your own family to produce brighter children and a happier home life.
1) Buy or dust off some games that are old favorites. Games like draughts, dominoes, connect four and card games, are not only terrific fun but they are also stimulating, challenging and involve concentration and strategy.
2) Chose a convenient slot in your weekly family pattern that is an ideal time for your family to sit down together and play a few games, such as a Friday evening or a Sunday afternoon, for example.
3) Add some elements to help "game time" become a family tradition: add favorite foods (bowls of popcorn or hot chocolate perhaps?) a comfy warm setting (in front of a roaring fire?), invite grandparents etc.
4) Start with games that a suited to the youngest age group present, or have a few games going at the same time that fit the various age ranges. Make sure everyone understands the rules and aims of the game being played and give everyone the benefit of examples of good moves and strategies by illustrating them on the game board before beginning the "real" game".
5) Explain that to enjoy playing games we all have to play by the rules, respect our partners and respect the outcome of the game. Regardless if we win or lose, to have fun playing games together we can't gloat when we win, and can't get upset when we lose. If we play lots of games together, there will be lots of chances for each of us to win sometimes, and lose sometimes. Either way we will have had a fun time playing together.
6) Show your own interest and enthusiasm for the game, give it concentration and effort, both for your own enjoyment, and also as a role model for your children. Rather than play ineffectively to ensure your child wins, instead, help your child learn from your game playing skills. Discuss out loud the moves you are making and why, to help your child understand the strategies you are using. If your child makes a move that is to their disadvantage, encourage them to look again and guide them to see a better move by asking them open questions such as "what are all the different options you have?" "What would happen if you take that move?" "What might be a better move that you can take?" I can see a way that you can win, can you see it?"
7) Whether your child wins or loses, at the end of the game summarise what you learnt from the game and then ask your child "what did you learn from that game?" "What might you do differently next time we play?"
Keep the "game time" fresh by bringing in new games. Surprise everyone by giving the family a new game "present" every few weeks. Games that can be played within an hour and involve thinking, memory, strategy or calculation are recommended such as: Othello, Guess Who, Mancala, Nine Man Morris, Scrabble, Chinese Chequers or Rush Hour.
|Posted by [email protected] on April 10, 2019 at 5:40 AM||comments (0)|
Raising a child can be a learning experience for the parent as well as the child. The various child stages are milestones to be achieved from being an infant to becoming a teenager. The stages are to be celebrated and enjoyed as they grow into successful young adults.
Child stages begin with preterm infants, which are when the baby was born earlier than expected and not around the forty week period which is for a term baby. Preterm infants, otherwise called "preemies" are smaller in size and require a longer stay in the hospital until they can successfully eat from a bottle, sleep without any breathing apparatuses and when they have reached a certain weight limit which is generally around five pounds. They many require certain additional help at home until they can feed and sleep as a full term baby would.
Next in child stages would be the infant stage, which is from around one month to almost two years old. During these months the child will grow immensely and learn to walk, crawl, feed themselves, sleep all night, speak and even begin potty training. These are the biggest years as far as development is concerned for the child that they will endure their entire lives. There seems to be a new change in their skills and progression each week until the child is two years old from walking to climbing and these months are the ones when you must watch the child at all times until they can safely move about the home without suffering from any injuries from falling.
The next years in child stages are the called the children stages. This is from the ages of two until they are eleven years old. These years are when the child will graduate to attend school, begin to play on team sports, begin to dress and care for themselves and not be as dependent on you the parents as they previously were. While the child is growing they may begin with attending preschool classes then progress to a kindergarten setting when they are five years old.
These years are generally not mandatory for a child to graduate, but it is encouraged to prepare them for a smooth transition into first grade and those to come so they are not so attached to you the parents. After the elementary school years the last in child stages is the adolescent one, which is from a twelve year old until an eighteen year old. This is the teen years that can be a tad tricky, but it is important to support your child and to allow them to become the people they want to be as adults.
Helene Goldnadel says that always have open communication with your children and be a good listener even when they are preschoolers, as when they want to tell you about their day and their lies they are doing so to engage with you. For information on child stages, you can do some research on the web for free to ensure your child is right where they should be.
|Posted by [email protected] on April 7, 2019 at 6:15 AM||comments (0)|
When it comes to early childhood daycare, many parents think that it needs to be made essential rather than just an alternative. Children develop new skills and improve existing abilities. By themselves, these new and improved skills justify the participation by children in a high quality early childhood education program. In this article, Helene Goldnadel will discuss some of the ways both you and your child can benefit from attending preschool.
Whilst many parents believe that the best place for a preschooler to learn is in the home, there is a growing awareness and understanding that parents often do not have the necessary skills to teach their children to a level that they are ready for school.
Here are some of the issues discussed by Helene Goldnadel that can be taken into account when you are deciding on your child's education.
|Posted by [email protected] on April 4, 2019 at 6:50 AM||comments (0)|
You have probably watched a couple of funny videos on YouTube where children do amazing stuff unknowingly and it ends up being a social media meme. If you haven't, then Helene Goldnadel would recommend you do so that you get a better understanding of our topic today.
Children just like adults are inborn learners. Right from the start when a child is born, learning is a natural part of it. Ask yourself this, who teaches a child to suckle? Nobody! As a matter of fact, there is hardly a thing that an infant can be taught at its early stages. Every kind of mental progress in a child is out of curiosity and discovery.
However, as a child develops, more and more inputs of inquisitiveness are needed so as to arouse another important part of the child's brain. This part is the creative element in the child. Please note that, if creativity isn't fostered as early as now, sooner or later that child will lack in inventiveness in future. Unfortunately, most parents aren't aware of the need to let their kids discover the world for themselves. Instead, such kinds of parents want to raise some kind of "perfect child" which is obviously impossible by all means.
Come to think of it, if child 'A' plays innocently with a matchbox and in the process burns his finger, will he/she possibly try that again? No, he won't because he has learned from his own experience. How about child B, whose parent has always kept the matches away from the kid till he is 9 years old? What will happen to such a child? Well believe it or not, you can't protect your child forever. Sooner or later, that curious part of him will drive him to light up even a bigger fire harder to control.
Remember, if a child has never tried out something at the opportune stage to do that, even when he/she grows old he/she will still feel the urge to try it out and this time the results might be more fatal. Why? Because he has more energy to do it, plus he can now combine the activity with other elements he/she has learnt from other avenues over the years.
Even so, parents should not be careless in the name of promoting curiosity. In as much as you are promoting curiosity in your child, some objects are by no means applicable in this important process. The matchbox instance in this piece was just for the sake of illustrating the idea, but it doesn't mean that you should give your child matches to play with. Always know that learning and satisfaction of a child's curiosity always come by chance. Curiosity should never be induced. Instead, you should follow your kid's lead. If he shows interest in something, help him out. But don't try to make him interested in that something forcefully.
|Posted by [email protected] on April 1, 2019 at 5:55 AM||comments (0)|
Autism disorder, also called autistic disorder or simply autism, is not a disease but rather a developmental disability affecting the brain that usually always manifests itself by the age of three.
Autism is considered to be a pervasive developmental disorder (PDD) and it is estimated that some form of the condition affects as many as six to eight of every 1,000 children today. There is no one set of symptoms or behaviors typical of all people with autism as the condition can cause a vast spectrum of symptoms ranging from the mild to the severe.
Autism is four times more likely to affect males than females, for reasons still unknown, and the condition knows no social, racial, or ethnic boundaries.
Some different types of autism include Asperger's syndrome in which language skills aren't affected but social problems abound, and Rett Syndrome, a form of autism that only affects females who seem to develop normally but then lose their social skills and communicative abilities before replacing normal hand movements with repetitive ones.
Children with autism aren't able to interact socially with their peers, including their own parents and family, and have limited communication skills. Autistic children often demonstrate some type of repetitive behavior whether it's rocking back and forth or saying the same phrase repeatedly. Some are preoccupied with certain objects, usually those that move or have lights to capture their attention
Effectively Dealing with Autism Disorder
Despite the increasing number of children diagnosed with autism every year, the number of viable treatments also expands as different methods and strategies are proven to be successful. Currently the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends a few different strategies, each with many facets to them, for treating autism disorder and improving function.
A child affected by autism will have their own set of unique learning needs that must be tailored to them individually, making no one strategy the most effective for every single child diagnosed with the disorder. Also, treatments must vary and be adapted to the changing needs of the child as they grow older.
Helene Goldnadel says that a structured and specialized treatment program that addresses the child's capabilities should include methods of improving communication and social skills along with implementing the best means of facilitating learning and development.
Several types of behavioral training are used as autism therapies including the commonly used ABA, or Applied Behavior Analysis, as well as specialized therapies involving separate components for occupational, physical, and speech therapy, and of course, medication when necessary.
ABA programs will address aspects of improving communication and social skills along with advancing academic development by setting small, attainable goals. Children will work extensively with a therapist who has been highly trained in the world of autism and the therapy has been shown to be most effective when it begins with children under five, although older children will still benefit.
Ongoing training for parents and caregivers along with support from the community, friends and family are also imperative when dealing with autism disorder.
There are also a number of alternative therapies to consider, however, be sure to research any treatments or therapies thoroughly and seek the advice and recommendation of your doctor before proceeding.
Unfortunately, there are no preventative measures known as of yet that will reduce the likelihood of a child developing an autism disorder, nor a means to initially gauge the severity of their condition. However, with plenty of support and knowledge on the subject, families touched by autism disorder will have a far easier time dealing with the condition and its possible ramifications.
Also read: Developing Kids Eating Habits
|Posted by [email protected] on March 28, 2019 at 5:35 AM||comments (0)|
Kids games play a major role on the development of every child. It is not only a leisure activity but also helps in the growth process of a child. It is important to choose the right kids game for your child. Kids games enhance the emotional, physical and intellectual development of children. Here are some tips by Helene Goldnadel to remember when choosing the perfect kids games for your child.
Once you have chosen the perfect kids games for your child, you may be assured that your child would have a wonderful time and at the same time develop as an emotionally, intellectually and physically fit individual. Find time to join with your child's activities to ensure his safety while playing and at the same time spend a quality time together.
|Posted by [email protected] on March 19, 2019 at 5:20 AM||comments (0)|
It can be difficult as a parent of an anxious child to know whether the behavior of an anxious child is fairly typical of their age or whether it is sufficiently out of line to border on a disorder.
If the child begins to exhibit symptoms of anxiety such as feeling sick before school in the morning, or becomes withdrawn and doesn't seem to bother with friends, then there may be an anxiety problem. It used to be thought that children didn't really suffer depression or anxiety in the real sense, but was perhaps just attention seeking or malingering. It is now recognized that children normally have fears and misgivings as they develop and a certain degree of anxiety is to be expected, but, in some cases it can be excessive and interfere with normal daily life.
Children can suffer strong emotions and fears that are entirely illogical. The more common fears of being separated from their parent or afraid of the dark usually diminish and fade as the child develops and are not therefore of great concern to the parent.
When children reach school age and mix with other children they usually integrate without problem. If a child is unwilling to mix, is excessively shy or timid, has nightmares often, or repeated tummy aches, then this may indicate an excess of anxiety.
The teenage years can be particularly fraught as the child comes to terms with the physical changes of adolescence plus the hormonal changes which can often lead to mood swings. For most adolescents the feelings of uncertainty, turmoil and unhappiness that are part of adolescence don't mean they will go on to experience more serious problems at all. These feelings are gradually put into perspective as maturity develops.
The causes of anxiety in a young person can one or more of a number; some of them are discussed below by Helene Goldnadel:
Severe irrational fears in connection with certain places or activities are called phobias. It is not unusual for teenagers to be shy, but if a fear of talking or eating in public, or being looked at, becomes so strong that the young person cannot face other people at all, and then a phobia has developed. Agoraphobia is the fear of being out in the open or in brightly lit public places.
Other problems are to do with obsessions or anxious repetitive thoughts that crowd the mind and won't leave. These can give rise to compulsive rituals in an attempt to expunge them. Common rituals or compulsions are counting or moving in a certain way, or repetitive activities like hand-washing.
Eating disorders in young people seem more common than they once were. One of these conditions is Anorexia nervosa which is an abnormal fear of getting fat. A child can starve themselves, or take laxatives, or exercise excessively in order to avoid becoming fat and often end up very thin and under weight. The condition seems to affect girls more than boys.
Whatever the cause of anxiety in a child or young person, if it is sufficient to worry you as a parent, then it warrants further attention, and you should seek the advice of your doctor who can then put you in touch with the right sort of therapy
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|Posted by [email protected] on March 14, 2019 at 5:45 AM||comments (0)|
What is Counseling and why is it important?
Child therapy or Counseling is a specialized field of psychology that focuses on working with children. It helps children who are discontented, have gone through a traumatic event, have a troubled family life, grief, are going through educational stress, anxiety, and other issues. We have to understand that having mental issues is not an aspect of just adulthood; children can have issues as well. A lot of times children cannot express themselves efficiently and when they express themselves in non-verbal ways it becomes difficult for parents to pick up on their cues as they lack the lack the appropriate knowledge. Working on these problems with a therapist helps break down these problems and helps children and their parents have a better understanding of these issues and cope with them. Therapy is important because it gives them a secure environment where they can express their thoughts, feelings and emotions without being judged.
Does my child need therapy?
These are a few signs discussed by Helene Goldnadel that your child needs professional help -
Let's take a look at a few ways by Helene Goldnadel a life coach by which your child can benefit from visiting a child psychologist -
Sometimes certain odd behaviors and issues that a child displays can be temporary and harmless, which makes waiting it out a good option. But if your child is suffering from any of the above-mentioned signs and if their issues are not addressed it and impede their development. As a parent, you will always get a sense of when your child needs help and it is your duty to get the professional help that your child needs.